Brains vs Brawn

One of the oldest questions in the book:

Looks? Or Personality?

Imagine yourself stuck in the airport due to a delayed flight. You call for a latte in Starbucks, fight your way to the last free couch and triumphantly plop into it.

An hour or two later your veins are pumping with caffeine and you muster the courage to talk to that gorgeous girl sitting next to you. Also because you are dying with boredom.

It's happened.

You went for Looks.

We continue:

You then find out that the gorgeous girl; aptly named Sarah (after a few minutes of prodding into her life), is that next-door-girl you'd love to bring home to your parents. Dressed in your Sunday best for Sunday roast - you know it would be just perfect.

That's Personality.

But really, does this ever happen in real life?

The chance of you meeting the love of your life both of wit and grace in a Café? Hmmm. We'll wager on that.

Truth is, we hide our shallowness by answering in the latter. Personality. Why not?

Like a sundae, that delicious red cherry-on-top is just the icing on the cake. Underneath that cherry, is where the magic is.

However, the reality is a little less black and white. Men are in fact, more prone to the pursuit of a superficial 'ideal', parading their new trophy girlfriend with bursting pride or trading their old 'un for a young chick as soon as circumstance allows.

Is this an unfair generalisation? Hell yeah.

But guess what is even more unfair?

An okay-looking dude getting all the chicks. And they're hot.

Yeah. You've seen that scene before. The balding dude with two gorgeous women on his arms, hanging on to his every word or the loser of the pack (or so you thought) ending up with the hottest girl in school.

For most men, there is an obvious gap between:

Lust ------------------------------------------ Love

However for most women, the dividing line is confusingly blurred.

Sort of like this: Lust-Love

According to research done at a US university, women, like men, can - quite genuinely - be blinded in matters of love and lust.

But while a female's perfect physical attributes (broadly speaking) is all it takes to convince a disconcertingly larger number of men that this beautiful symmetrical woman is up for the challenge of a long-term companionship, a woman's blindness often works in reverse.

How?

Instead of the rippling biceps and triceps, you want to know what also turns a woman on?

Their M-I-N-D.

Oh yes.

A man's intellectual achievements, mutterings of tomorrow's plan for the complicated surgery, his close relationship with his family or simply a predisposition to be kind to that mangy mutt outside the chicken rice shop is all it takes to transform a stocky, balding nerd into Brad Pitt in the smitten woman's eyes.

Unfortunately men, this is true.

For example: A strong reason why I was attracted to a particular person was his great relationship with his parents, and the fact that he adores and is adored by his siblings. When I told him that, he brushed away my observation and proceeded to instead show the 'macho' side of himself.

The conclusion can only be this: I like a family-orientated man. The way he treats his family in the present, I feel, will be reflected in the way he will treat his future family. With tender love, and care (awww!).

So will it be Brains?

...or Brawn?

Saran

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